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You
know you should prepare for your second baby's arrival. But how?
The
What to Expect books that captivated you before now make your
eyes glaze over. You don't need, or want, much new gear. And the
first baby taught you that children sabotage the best-laid plans.
However,
taking a few steps now can help ease the transition from one child
to two. Prepare yourself, your marriage and your firstborn to
welcome your second baby with the following strategies.
*Encourage
brotherly love. Talking to siblings about the new baby is important.
But some of the big sister and big brother books are negative,
preparing firstborns for jealousy, tantrums and strife. Be positive
in introducing the new baby. Discuss how you'll bathe, dress and
diaper her together.
*Take
a labor and delivery class. You think you remember everything.
(How could a woman forget?) But I was amazed at how much new information
surfaced in my second childbirth class - and how much I had to
brush up on just two years after the birth of my first.
*Negotiate
daddy care. Be specific about your husband's future role; consider
what has and hasn't worked with your first child. Have dad assume
more duties with your firstborn now. It will be easier later if
he knows the ropes.
*Purchase
a double stroller. Your toddler may be big enough to walk, but
he'll stage a sit-down strike when you stroll baby sister. Buy
a double stroller if your firstborn is under age 4. The front-to-back
ones are easier to maneuver through doors.
*Get
organized. One child is a relationship. Two is a small business.
Make sure you've got a good planner. PDAs like the Palm can program
events to repeat each week, which is great for scheduling kids'
activities.
*Consider
preschool. School can provide the big brother to a new baby with
a welcome world of his own, while offering you time alone with
your second child. Start classes before the baby arrives so your
older child won't feel like he's being shipped out because of
his new sibling.
*Upgrade
your tote. Forget the sleek designer diaper bag. Function trumps
form as the family grows. Get a bag with pockets on the outside
so you can grab the rattle and the juice box before the stoplight
turns green.
*Request
a gift. Not for the baby. For you! First-time moms get big showers.
Women expecting the second child often get ignored. Ask for a
pretty bathrobe, a bracelet or something else that will fit despite
those extra pounds.
*Relax.
Newborns sleep a lot and don't steal siblings' toys. Chaos doesn't
really set in until the second child becomes mobile. Early on
parents often enjoy a honeymoon period. Prepare to savor those
baby moments - they're even sweeter the second time around!
(c)
2006 Jennifer Bingham Hull. Reprint rights granted as long as
entire article is published, including resource box and its live
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About
the Author: Jennifer Bingham Hull is an award-winning author and
mother of two. Her book, Beyond One: Growing a Family and Getting
a Life, looks at the changes having the second child brings. Jennifer's
articles have appeared in The Wall Street Journal, Parenting, Working
Mother and many other publications.
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more tips, visit www.growingafamily.com,
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